There is a common saying that behind every successful man there is a woman. But often we don’t talk much about these heroines behind the man. This time we allocated some space for these unsung women behind the success of outstanding cricketers in Sri Lanka. In this column the present writer focused on the romantic times and interesting incidents in their married life.
Sherami Dinushika Perera, the wife of talented cricketer Thisara Perera, joins in this discussion with the Rivira Group. Today, Sherami Dinushika reminisces her love affair with Thisara.
Q: How did you two meet?
We were friends from childhood. We studied in the same Sunday school.
Q: Though you and Thisara were friends during childhood, in your adolescent did your feelings for him change?
Almost all my friends were girls. But Thisara was also among my friends. I felt at that time he paid me special attention.
Q: Who initiated the affection that went beyond that friendship, you or Thisara?
Thisara showed the first signs but I was also not blameless in that.
Q: How did Thisara sense that you had a soft corner for him?
I realized that Thisara was in love with me when we were in Grade 9 or Grade 10. He used to send messages through his friends expressing his love. At that young age we hardly knew what love really was. I did not reply to his messages but continued my association with him.
Q: Didn’t Thisara approach you directly to reveal his love?
We both met at Sunday school regularly. The day he asked me was after a Sunday class. I asked him to get my mother’s approval because my father was abroad and it was she who took care of me. I never did anything against the wishes of my mother.
Q: Did Thisara call on your mother to get her consent?
When I used to go to the Sunday school, my mother would accompany me and wait for me till class was over. One day Thisara had met my mother at the Sunday school and told my mother about his love for me. My mother and Thisara’s family are friends, so he was not shy to ask this. My mother never uttered a word about it to me when we returned home.
Q: Did your mother agree to it?
My mother had advised him to focus on his education first as we were still young to think of such serious matters. But we were not prevented from talking to each other.
Q: Were you agreeable to his proposal at that time?
Yes. I had the opportunity of meeting him at Sunday school but not elsewhere. I had a mobile phone that came in handy when chatting with.
Q: What was the most unforgettable incident that took place during that period?
When I was in A/L class, one day we cut class and sneaked out for a walk. When my mother called me I told her that I was in class but one of my friends spilled the beans and told my mother I didn’t come to class. My mother punished me for lying when I returned home. It left a mark in my memory.
Since Grade 9, Thisara had sent birthday cards to me anonymously. My mother had hidden them from me. On the day Thisara asked my mother’s consent to she had asked Thisara whether it was he who sent birthday cards to me and he had admitted it. He had sneaked a peek at my address from the Sunday school register. My mother showed me later all the birthday cards Thisara had sent.
Q: How long were you in love before you tied the knot?
We had been in love for about four years. After my A/Ls we decided to marry. By then Thisara showed good progress in cricket and toured abroad for matches. Due to this reason both our families arranged our wedding on December 3, 2008.
Q: Don’t you feel bored and lonely because Thisara is a full-time cricketer and out of home often and you have to do all the household chores?
Initially, it was unbearable but he called me often. Later on I got used to handling family matters alone in his absence. We have a good understanding, so we have no friction between us.
Q: Do you feel jealous when other girls show interest in him?
At first when he came to the limelight in cricket, I was a bit jealous. But I understood that he was loved by many for his cricketing prowess and I realized that there are girls too among his fans. Now I admire his charisma and popularity.
Q: In your eyes who is Thisara?
He is completely dedicated to his first love, cricket. He always strives to improve his cricketing talents. He is a calm and quiet person. I am very happy about his success. I am proud to be his wife.
Q: Don’t you expect to have kids soon?
Yes, we soon expect a visit from the stork.
(Translated by Ananda Elkaduwa)