If you subscribe to an astrological view of the world and are attracted to a man who happens to be a Cancer, keep the following in mind. Cancer men are complex members of the zodiac family. Shy and withdrawn, a Cancer man will only become attracted to you if you first manage to elbow your way into his life. On the other hand, most Cancer men appreciate women who let them take over the traditional male role of a relationship, so you’ll need to let him eventually hold the reins if you want a relationship to get going. Here are a few ways you could appeal to his love of family.

Present a traditional feminine aura. Most Cancer men are attracted to women who are highly feminine in a very traditional way. Subconsciously, a Cancer male will be looking for a woman who fits his image of the ideal wife and mother. Everything from your appearance to your mannerisms should ooze femininity.

Slip on a sensual, flirty outfit before you approach him, like a dress that hugs your curves in all the right places. Floral perfumes in classic scents, like rose, can also create the perfect feminine ambiance around you. Don’t try to slip in under the radar as ‘one of the guys’. Skip the dirty jokes and witty jabs; instead, speak softly and compassionately. Avoid acting too boyish around him.


Emphasize your love of family. You should talk about the love you have for your current family as well as any dreams you have about marrying and starting a family of your own. Cancer men generally dream of having children someday, so it’ll help your case dramatically if your dreams are in line with his.

When talking about your current family, focus on the maternal side. Talk about things you have learned from your mother or time you have recently spent with your mother. Cancer is a classic mama’s boy, and if you can show a love for your mother that rivals the love he has for his own, you can connect to him more easily.

In addition to all the ‘mom’ talk, converse with him about pleasant family memories and your childhood.



Connect to the people close to him. As long as your Cancer man has a functional family, he will probably be very close to them. The sooner you can get to know his family, the sooner you can attract him as a potential mate. Once again, the Cancer man tends to be a mama’s boy. If you can meet his mother and get on her good side, you can quickly promote yourself in his eyes.

If he did not have a good relationship with his family growing up, chances are, it was not by his choice. A Cancer man who did not receive the love of family from his actual family will probably view his circle of friends as his family, instead. In this case, your best bet is to get on good terms with his friends. Focus on his female friends, though, since getting too cozy with his male buddies might cause him to distrust your affection for him.

Show off your homemaking skills. After you get to know him a little, take the initiative and show off your ability to keep house in a very traditional manner. One of the easiest ways to do this is through cooking. Cook up a meal or treat for him, or invite him over to cook a complex recipe with you.

Keep in mind, however, that the Cancer man is a little more withdrawn and may resist your affections if he believes that you’re coming on too fast. Inviting him back to your place for a meal the first time you meet him will probably end in rejection. Wait until you have already established some sort of bond with him before you extend an invitation into your home.

Talk about his family in a positive way. Invite him to talk about his own family and connect other topics of conversation back to his family as often as possible. Always do so in a positive light, though, and avoid anything that could sound like an insult toward those he loves.

For instance, if you’ve seen his mother and he shares some resemblance with her, mention it to him. You could also try complimenting the relationship he has with his siblings or remarking on how much you think a certain family member might enjoy the great new band/restaurant/book/movie you’re talking about.