In this modern day and age, dating has become even more tiresome than life itself. From boyfriends who ask for more than you can deliver, to the single life where no human fits your requirements, dating is simply a headache for some people. This week, Annie received many a query regarding dating and relationships

Q: Annie, I’m an 18-year old student with a part time job at a small shop.  I recently slept with a guy at work and he has not paid attention to me since.  I have totally fallen for him. We have known each other since we were children and I know he was always shy.  Why won’t he speak to me, let alone date me? Did he use me for sex or is he just too shy to continue?
A: Well, there are two possibilities to this situation. Either he only wanted sex and you gave it to him. In which case, he evidently does not want to continue the relationship. Or, he is probably embarrassed and too shy. But you must always remember that being somebody’s tissue is not a good foundation to develop a relationship with any depth…like a second date.

ask-annieQ: I’m dating a boy who likes me a lot.  All my friends know him and say that he is a user and a player.  He says he will commit suicide if he loses me.  I still like him but I can’t stand this emotional stuff.  All the guys I know say to leave him and that he is a jerk.  I don’t want to hurt him and I still care about him a lot.  It makes me cry.
A: You are being emotionally used by this young man. If he is threatening suicide tell your parents and have them call the police and explain his threats. Annie thinks that it is important to listen to what others say about the character of the beloved. If you are involved with someone who no one can stand, then you are blind. The emotionally blind need guidance.  Listen carefully.

Q: I’ve known this guy for about six months and he’s my best friend. We have a lot of things in common and we just seem to click. There is one problem though, my friend who introduced us has liked him for 4 years. He pretty much ignores her and spends time with me.  I don’t know what to tell her.  We are attracted to each other and we keep sneaking around so she won’t see us in town.  I told her that I like him and she was upset.  Is there an easy way to tell her we are becoming a couple?
A: You did tell her when you told her that you liked him.  I hope your guy friend is not leading on this woman’s heart. So, if you both start spending time with others as an established couple your friend will know what is happening. Stop sneaking. If she asks, tell her that you both have decided to become more serious about each other. She may need to withdraw from your friendship for a while. Give her some time and space. She might come around eventually.

  • Chamika Goonetilaka

    Dear Annie. It’s about the answer you gave for the third question. Do you really believe that this girl should go out with her best friend’s 4 year old crush because that guy seems to have lot in common and they seems to click? Her friend must have introduced him to her because that she is really excited about this guy. Normally when you have such emotions for someone, you tends to introduce those people to your closest friends. That is done because of trust and friendship you have over the friend. Hence I do believe that if she choose to go out with this guy despite the emotions of her best friend, it is a betrayal of true friendship, irrelevant of how her friend react to it. After all, It’s your decisions define who you are.