Show me a perfect human being and then I will show you drama of pretence. In life perfection is something one can achieve but something you can actually achieve is excellence. We often look for perfection in other people; we sometimes forget that perfection is not attainable and even the saints are also not perfect. We refuse to accept other people as they are, with their virtues and defects. Everybody has their own defects or buts.
A preacher once said, “I don’t pray every day because I am better than you, I pray and move closer to God because I am also prone and easily sin.” If a man of God can say this and knowing that he has to work on himself on a daily basis why can’t you? When people laugh at your defect you stop trying, you forget that those people that are laughing at you also have their own struggles that they are facing. When you overlook your defect and you appreciate yourself, they will come to laugh at you.
Don’t focus on your defect but try to work on yourself toward excellence every day. The power that controls your feeling about what others say about you is your own perception of how you see yourself.
Don’t try to be perfect, just try to be better than the way you are yesterday. Misato Katsuragi said, “God knows I’m not perfect, either. I’ve made tons of stupid mistakes and later I regretted them. And I’ve done it over and over again, thousands of times; a cycle of hollow joy and vicious self-hatred. But even so, every time I learned something about myself.” Being imperfect is actually what connects us in this world because what others see as imperfect might be the perfect thing to another.
When people judge and mock you because of your imperfection, don’t see it as a bad thing, but look at it as something to embrace and work on. People may criticize you and may not like your imperfection but it’s better than wearing a mask and pretending. Being yourself without compromising who you are is what really matters. No matter how much rejection you face in the journey of life, you will eventually meet someone who will like you for who you are and it does not mean you have to be stagnant.
No! Don’t be. Set a goal for yourself and work on those goals. We are all screwed up human beings and the difference between the people you see as perfect and you is that they know their weakness and they try every day to be better than who they were in the past.
Chances are that you have heard many unkind and critical words from people about you. It doesn’t mean you have to give up on yourself because of what they said or what you heard; in fact it is a sign that you are being noticed. It means you are worth someone’s time and attention. Small, irrelevant, unworthy and insignificant people cannot be judged and you are judged because there is something unique about you and maybe it’s something you too don’t know or see. Billy Graham said, “If people are kicking you in the behind, at least you are in front of them.”
Stop comparing yourself with others and stop gathering bad thoughts that other people are perfect and you are not, there is no perfect human being. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser person than yourself, according to Desiderata. Don’t judge yourself because people see your defect, it’s all in your head. You are not inferior or imperfect because of what other said or think you are inferior because you encourage and believe in their words and live in it. Joseph Addison said, “It is only imperfection that complains of what is imperfect. The more perfect we are the gentler and quiet we become towards the defects of others.”
Now is the time to wake up from your dreamless slumber and accept your imperfection, there is nothing wrong in having defects or buts whether visual or not. There are lots of successful people with defects and disabilities that have passed on and so many are still alive today. Helen Adams Keller was an American author, political activist and lecturer. She was the first deaf and blind person to earn a Bachelor of Arts degree.
John Forbes Nash is schizophrenic and is a Noble laureate American mathematician whose work in game theory, differential geometry and partial differential equations are considered ground breaking and the Academy Award winning film named ‘A beautiful Mind’ is based on his life.
Brene Brown said, “Why, when we know that there’s no such thing as perfect, do most of us spend an incredible amount of time and energy trying to be everything to everyone? Is it that we really admire perfection? No – the truth is that we are actually drawn to people who are real and down-to-earth. We love authenticity and we know that life is messy and imperfect.” So, don’t be perfect but be better.